Details of a White Rhinoceros

 In Fauna

A few of my friends have told me lately about how having a child is the best thing that can ever happen to them. Some even felt that having children is their greatest achievement in life.

It is very hard to understand this phenomenon for a person of the mind, especially those that are yet to be parents. A calculative mind is all about time and trade. How much time is required? How much do I need to give? What will I get back? Is it worth it?

It is difficult to enjoy parenthood for one that thinks too much. He or she might not even want to have a child in the first place. The truth is that you will be giving for a very long time and there is no guarantee that you will get anything in return from the child. Not many people understand that the child comes through you and not from you. They don’t really belong to you in the first place. Caring for a child is like a job with heavy responsibilities and no wages, actually you would have to pay from your pocket once you get the job. If it is a career, you would be insane to apply for a job like that.

Why then is having children the best thing that can happen to someone’s life?

Only a person of love can understand. A person of love doesn’t see the returns in monetary or time value. He or she sees the returns from the heart and the heart is always illogical. The heart sees the returns in the form of a smile, the growth and the joy of a child. It couldn’t resist protecting that small fragile body even at the cost of one’s life. How would a self-preservative mind understand this willingness to sacrifice? There seems to be no logic to it.

Doing photography is also similar in certain ways. For many of us, we might not even get back half of what we put into our crafts. Why do we still continue to put in the dedication, the time, the money, the sweat, so that we can continue to give and share? It takes a great toll on us and yet we drag out our heavy gear and head out for sunrise early in the wee hours. The mind cannot comprehend this madness and it burns us out on many occasions.

When we stand in front of a magnificent sunrise and hear the waves crash, or when we come eye to eye with an exotic being of nature. Something magical happens—it makes our heart sing. The mind drops when we are mesmerized by the beauty of it all. When thinking stops, awareness arises. This awareness of our connection to the world makes us feel alive. That is why we inevitably continue to create…we want to share that aliveness with others. In other words, we want to share the love and that love can only be found when the mind is not. How then can anything we do be logical if the mind is not there but the heart is?

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  • annbkennedy1@gmailcom
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    I am far behind in my blog reading, Darren, but I am committed to catch up eventually! You see, this summer I have had the privilege of spending precious time with my own grown children and those times are very, very special indeed. The gifts we receive from parenting far exceed any other. I love what you have written here about one\’s choice to parent. Yes, it\’s the best way I know to experience the highest highs and some of the most exhausting lows. But nothing has taught me more in life than what I have learned as a parent. It\’s a job in which there are no guarantees, and as you have so beautifully described, it can resemble photography in our passion and unrelenting attempts to do it right. You are correct that heart and mind together create the wonder, mystery and beauty of our children. And that seems true to create a special photo as well. That said, your wonderful rhino portrait makes me wonder if at this stage you are thinking that parenting is absolutely \”tough as nails\” as the expression goes:-) The post is beautiful, of course. Thank you.

    • Darren Song Ng
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      Thank you for your thoughtful comments as always dear Ann! I am glad and happy that you get to spent some precious time with your children. The time we have is never enough, especially just being with our love ones. Maybe subconsciously I did create this image to reflect the toughness that is required for being a parent lol. I admit it can be exhausting at times since I am taking care of my son and doing what I could on the side. Being a father and an artist doesn\’t seemed to blend well together but I would not exchange it for anything. The experience is more than worth it. Thank you so much for your supportive words as always!

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