The Art of New Year Resolutions
On the very last day of the year, I planned to set up my tripod and camp for the required hours to get a good shot for the fireworks display so that I can share it along with this post.
I wasn’t ready because I did not put in the required research beforehand, I didn’t even have time to go down and scout for location.
That sounded like an excuse and it really is.
The truth is I just decided that the alternative is what I really wanted instead.
Since the arrival of our little boy just a couple of months ago into the family, it had been pretty chaotic and I didn’t expect that the responsibilities required would cause such a great change to my work routine. It is times like this that I have to throw my old resolutions out of the window and create new ones on demand. Even though I would very much love to share epic pictures in DLJ, it is another thing to see our child smile and laugh for the first time and so I decided that spending quality time with my family during the countdown is the best way to move into the new year.
Nevertheless, these tulips, in my opinion, are some of the natural expression of fireworks that we get to see around us everyday.
I hope that all the flowers in the world will cause your heart to sing and celebrate each wondrous day that happens to come along.
It is the time of the year again where some of us try to evaluate our past year and make resolutions for the new one. We weren’t sure since when the habit of goal setting crept into our lives. We were taught that to be successful, one must have goals and be so disciplined enough that nothing will sway one from achieving it.
“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
How can a bullet find its target if it didn’t have one to begin with right?
It didn’t work for me.
I did try to make new year resolutions in the past which I didn’t care to remember and I only found myself making pretty much the same resolutions some years later. Why didn’t it worked for me where it might have worked for someone else? I guess being so discipline and iron-willed is not the way I want to live.
I prefer something softer and more subtle. In this way I can always be flexible. Flexible enough to live life as it comes and enjoy the journey that is meant to be. It is like the trees that lined the beaches with their long and slender trunks, they bend easily with the winds when needed and survived because of their flexibility. Too rigid? They break.
So sometimes I asked myself, why aren’t I rich yet? Why can’t I carry out the projects that I set out to do within the stipulated time? Why don’t I have the sexy and peak physical condition that I am capable of?
In every unpredictable moments, life happens irregardless of our wants and desires. There are ways to attract things and situations into our lives, but it will happen only because of who we are, not what we want.
It is because life calls and what I want is to enjoy each moment along the way which makes up the journey for life itself. There are really two ways to live. One is to expect the bag of gold at the end of road and hopefully it is there when we reach the end. The other is to notice that the gold has been there all along, within our grasp with each step we take. It is just that most are too blind to notice when their eyes are fixated on the end.
In every unpredictable moments, life happens irregardless of our wants and desires. There are ways to attract things and situations into our lives, but it will happen only because of who we are, not what we want. There are moments when the immediate requires more of our focus and attention. Like when my newborn son requires feeding and I am busy with my work. My wife needs help when she is overwhelmed with all the housework she needs to do. Friends who need a hand and a listening ear. Maybe even just time for ourselves to be meditative and alone, so that we have a chance of having self-reflection and rejuvenation.
In these moments, sometimes our desires have to take a back seat. It depends on who we are on the inside. If you are naturally a loving father or mother, you will attend to the child. If you are a friend, you will lend your ears but if you are by nature an unloving person, you will naturally focus on acquiring your wants and your stuff. As a result, it is sad that most of the world love things and use people instead of loving people and using things.
So does that mean that we should just drop goal setting altogether?
What works for me is making goal setting really simple. Just have a general idea of what you want and let it go. In this way, you know where you want to go and at the same time you are open to all paths that lead there. You can enjoy any of these paths, it doesn’t matter which one you took.
If you have a deep awareness within yourself and a general direction to go, you will know what you want from the bottom of your heart and be that person you really are. By being yourself, you will naturally make the right decisions in every moments of your life to lead you there.
The key difference as compared to normal goal settings is that you enjoy the journey along the way and that makes all the difference to a blissful life.
I would very much like to wish you a Happy New Year but does that mean that yesterday and tomorrow becomes an old year? It doesn’t sound very right to be wishing you a Happy Old Year on any other days so instead I would like to wish you…
Happy New Day!
May all the best things happen to you on each day.